HEALING PHASE
1) Acknowledge, Pause, & Ground. Force yourself not to
immediately react (unless you need to defend your life).
Ground and breathe deep and slow, connect to the center of
the Earth (visualize). Acknowledge that your trigger, your
intense emotion, is the beginning of a healing invitation to a
Healing Phase. Rename the occurrence, the situation, the
pain or anger, as a call to heal. Pause and collect yourself
before responding. We want to limit “reactive behavior” in
ourselves. Choose to compartmentalize the incident/issue
until you are able to do a productive Healing Release.
2) Healing Release. Purging. Find time to express the
emotions in a healthy and safe way that does not
immediately include yelling at someone or reacting to
someone.
Deep and slow breathing into the belly while grounding to
prepare for your release. Grounded release helps us to stay
safe and to not hurt ourselves or our vocal cords.
Work with an EMDR therapist.
Take a walk or run in nature and tone out your emotions.
Swim and imagine purging your emotions. Let the water and
your breath cleanse you.
Write down all your emotions in a journal or Word document.
The side to side action of writing is a form of EMDR.
Workout with an intention to release the emotions and
energy of the trigger/wound through visualization and
breathwork.
Toning in private. Tone the anger/pain. Breathe in white light.
Tone out emotional light. Release through a controlled
volume and vibration as to not hurt your vocal cords.
Express through a painting or poetry. Make a creation of
your pain/anger.
Dance an anger dance, a sad dance, pain dance.
3) Self Nurture. Fill with Light. Celebrate Transformation.
Cleansing with water is a great final step of the Healing
Phase. Or bathe yourself in Self-God-Love-Light. We
must practice self-love in action.
Take a hot shower or hot bath with a nice beverage.
Drink extra water.
Walk with your feet in the water of the ocean or a
stream.
Sit on the side of a pool with your feet in the water.
Go for a swim.
Enjoy a gentle walk or happy dance with music.
Get a healing massage.
Take yourself out for a nice dinner. Cook yourself a
favorite dinner.
What is EMDR?
EMDR in my own words, is one of the most powerful
healing modalities I have experienced. I’ve experienced
numerous healing modalities including; transformational
breathwork, Rebirthing, talk therapy, plant medicine
journeys, shamanism, soul retrieval, chakra balancing,
toning, Reiki, tantra, meditation, yoga, and more.
EMDR works to physically balance the right and left
hemispheres of the brain. Watching with our eyes only, not
moving the head, a something that moves from right to left
and back to right, and repeat, is a main component to
EMDR. It can move with different tempos of speed. It can
have a beep associated with it, or even hand buzzers. My
current EMDR therapist uses hand buzzers only. It works
great. The concept is that in many childhood and life
traumas, our brain was unable to process the event at the
time of occurrence. Triggers are when something happens in
life, usually involving another person doing something that
hurts our feelings or causes us to feel intense emotions of
anger and/or betrayal. This emotional response in ourselves
can be so intense as to knock us off our balance. Maybe
even consume us. Infuriate us. Cause us to cry. This is a
trigger.
We want to work with triggers in new productive ways
by first identifying them as “a call to healing”. The trigger is
connected to something painful that happened before,
usually in our childhood (or other lifetime).
By reconditioning ourselves to take action to “heal”
instead of responding with reactive revenge or
defensiveness (unless your life is threatened), we can little
by little heal these deeper wounds. We can find a way
through the chaos if we know a few tools.
EMDR accelerates this healing in the brain which is in
direct relation to our emotions and perspectives. By reliving
the original wound, with an EMDR therapist, while we are
holding buzzers in our hands or watching a something move
from right to left and back and forth, our brain is able to fully
process the “unhealed original wound” that is connected to
all the similar or like wounds that have occurred after the
original wound.
War veterans use this therapy with great results. Rape
victims, assault victims, anyone who has undergone any
type of emotional or physical abuse, or violence, PTSD,
have benefited from this proven therapy.
Writing is a home adjunct to EMDR therapy that may or
may not be as powerful as working with a therapist trained in
EMDR, but it is definitely effective in its own right. I do both. I
like to get to the root of a trigger through writing. And then I
take what I found to be the root(s), and work on that with my
EMDR therapist. Or I journal on my own time to add to my
self-healing path. Journaling is an effective self-therapy tool
and certainly acts as a balancer of the brain and emotions.
Remember to always end on a positive note. Ask your higher
self, Angels, guides, or God, to assist in a positive
perspective you can end with, after you have vented and
purged.
Many Blessings.
